Make sure you are getting married for the right reasons!
Before we begin let me make it clear that this blog is not about whether or not one should get married. It contains some insights on the ideal reasons to get married from the experiences of those who are planning to get married in the near future and from the married couples. The objective being, to break the traditional beliefs and enhance thoughts on Indian marriage culture. It is important to clarify your reasons for getting married as wrong reasons can turn your fantasy world’s happily ever after marriage life into a toxic relationship.
Starting with some traditional reasons because it's high time to say a big NO to them. The following situations don’t justify the reasons for anyone to get married.
You are in you in your late 20’s ( or whatever age you are in, it doesn’t matter)
Societal Pressure
Parents are consistently forcing you to Marry
All your friends are getting married
Someday you have to marry after all
For money
You won’t get pregnant after a certain age
You are heartbroken
See these things are temporary and marriage is something you wish to be in forever. I am not saying that it is NECESSARY to be in marriage till your death but again no one wishes for a divorce until it is highly toxic. So if we continue this way, the relationship between two people will either become toxic or anyone of them will have to adjust for life long and keep sacrificing his or her happiness.
If it is that your parents are not understanding you and you don’t want to hurt them. Just talk to them, make them understand and in the end decide what’s good for you because it is your life and you have to face your after marriage life so only you should decide it for yourself.
Now you must be wondering what should be the reasons. Well, it’s very simple. Get married because
YOU AND YOUR partner want to
You feel that you have explored all phases of your life and now, you want to experience this phase of your life.
You wish to create a family of your own
Marriage and then a family of your own comes with lots of responsibilities and eventually builts a leadership quality, and now you feel that you are ready for all this.
You feel that you lived enough just for yourself and now you want someone special as a reason to continue living life for.
You want to be with someone with whom you can share your happiness & sorrows, see ups & downs together, see each other grow, till your old times.
You got the drift, right?
Now that you know what kind of reasons should be forcing you to get married, it is important to make it clear with each other( you & your partner ) or discuss about your after marriage life to maintain a healthy relationship. As in about your families, your priorities, your reasons for getting married, etc.
Comment down your views on this. Feel free to give reality checks or share the points that I have missed.
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